When Your Best Friend Forgets The Forever
For the most part, I’ve managed to dodge heartache when it comes to romantic relationships. As far as friendships, I’ve unfortunately had to bite the bullet.
I’m sure I’m not the only one who was under the illusion that while boys come and go; your best friend was there forever. There’s no way the girl I cried to, shared secrets with, dreamed dreams with would ever not be in my life. Until one day, a Facebook memory reminds you of what once was.
I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t hard to process that a girl I once called my sister, no longer saw value in our sisterhood. I’d be lying if I said I don’t cringe a little when my dad asks me how she’s doing, years after our friendship ended. I’d also be lying if I said it didn’t reshape my outlook on relationships as a whole.
I mean, if someone I confided in for ten plus years decided that what we built wasn’t worth salvaging. Why would I trust someone I met two years, two months, or two minutes ago? But then again, if the man I’ve loved for five years decided to walk away, would I give up on love? I’m sure you guessed it. No.
Relationships are tested and as a result, you grow stronger or apart. I see both as a good thing. Not to sound cliche but I finally understand the saying “people are in your life for a reason, season or lifetime.” Deciphering which person fits in each of those categories can get complicated. But I guess there wouldn’t really be a lesson to learn if we were good at predicting the roles people play in our lives.
So, to my (former) best friend who forgot the forever. Thank you.
Thank you for the laughs. Thank you for the shoulder to lean on. Thank you for the late night pep talks and making me feel like I can do anything. Thank you for the lessons in life and love. Thank you for your comforting words in my time of need. Thank you, for the many reasons you were placed in my life. I wish you nothing but the best.